Hello Serena, thanks for the compliments and for having contacted us, responding to your problem without analyzing the case properly is not at all easy, from what you tell Matteo could suffer from a “DIG – Gender Identity Disorder”, which consists in identifying of the individual in the opposite sex to the biological one, something totally different from the homosexuality that regards the sexual orientation, in fact a subject that suffers from DIG can be heterosexual or bisexual. This mental disorder is quite rare, the estimates speak of about one man in thirty thousand and it manifests itself already from small to four to five years. The causes of this disorder are mainly due to problems of a psychological or educational nature that the child has already had as a child; some studies also trace this disorder to biological problems, such as the lack of androgens in the mother’s uterus during pregnancy. This disorder does not find a solution with drugs or special care, only with psychotherapy can this boy be helped to accept himself and his sexuality, possibly to remove a trauma from a child, and to elaborate a life project appropriate to his nature. I advise you to contact a specialist who will surely offer you a family therapy rather than an individual one, because in this case, Matthew, only feeling accepted by the family, can live a life without hiding and as normal as possible. The theme is quite complex and must be analyzed in detail, I hope I have given you a first answer to your question.
Fabio –Sex Academy