Roberto – 46
I have been married for 20 years for about 10 years I would like to try new things from nudism to tantra massage to have threesome sex inserting a man into our couple but my wife doesn’t want to do anything, on the contrary she feels offended to tell the truth we did a nudist weekend , after the first day where she performed only topless and loincloth she let herself go doing the nude, it was three beautiful days this said by her but it didn’t happen again, another thing she gave me was made a tantrum by a woman but her words were, I felt her cold tits because she was remade, that she was good and delicate but that she was not excited at all, as I wanted, when instead, unbeknownst to her talking to the masseuse, I she said she was wet, another lie I was present at the massage to deny that the masseuse licked her big lips.
You understand that I also like to watch what you do in so many massages, but my greatest desire is to see her massaged first to make her melt and then see her having sex with the masseur or another man, one thing she always reaffirms is that she does not need to find such things in other men, I take it from her, that she would like to do only a private spa where she and I are naked and fucked, but there are some contradictions in what she says, denying things on the first tantra massage, being naked in the only nudist experience with a great desire to have sex at night, now that I insist on doing these things, he reiterates that the hands of another man disgust them but a massage of a normal couple where he would be massaged by man then yes, when on several occasions I have always told her how she wants the Tantra Masseur to have been dressed, and that maybe I would like to participate in the massage after a while, something that makes me strange and yet and he doesn’t want me to participate in the massage, which is why if he really has to do it, it must be a normal couple’s massage. Where do you think I’m wrong? And if you think like me that you may like things but don’t want to show it? What an idea you have had Thanks
Hello Roberto, what you wrote to us is not very different from what many people who come to do couple sex therapy tell us. After so many years of marriage it is normal to want to experiment new things in the sexual relationship, to sometimes rekindle the fire of passion, which almost always tends to fade with time. sexual understanding and complicity are the fundamental bases for being able to live one’s sex life in a free and satisfying way, unfortunately this does not always happen in a couple, many times a partner is more open to experimenting new things and the other not. The reasons are many and varied that vary from sex education that a person has received in life, to how he lived the sexual life until today, many people do not practice nudism because they do not consider their body pleasing, and therefore they feel ashamed to show it in nudity, and very often the mistake of imposing one’s sexual fantasies on one’s partner without really asking oneself what one might like and what not, and one ends up forcing intimate choices that certainly do not help the relationship. Undoubtedly every person, man or woman aspires to have a sex life as rewarding as possible, in order to grow together and share this journey, the only solution is sincere and constructive dialogue, starting from a common point and trying to build a sexual fantasy that is by mutual agreement. The changes in a couple, especially of a sexual nature, can strengthen the relationship if done in a common way, but can lead to a break when these choices are unique; very often they are afraid to change their habits, because the agreement between the partners is not so strong, and a wrong game could lead to a crisis, or simply choose not to experiment new things, because you have a sex life completely satisfied, that does not need changes. What I advise you is to talk openly with your wife, to find a common starting point, and to satisfy her fantasies; you will see that she too, rediscovering herself more as a woman, will have an interest in increasing her sex life.
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