Daniela – 37
Good evening, my name is Daniela I am 37 years old and have been married to Gianni for 5 years, I have a problem that is ruining our relationship, we have a good sexual understanding, our sexual relationships are always very beautiful and enveloping, but I can never reach orgasm; the first few times I gave no weight and I started pretending so as not to ruin the agreement with Gianni, but years later things have not changed, on the contrary it seems to me that orgasm is something I will never be able to reach in my life, all this is becoming heartbreaking for our relationship and I would like to understand if this problem of mine is related to him, or if it is only mine. I have read about many girls who have the same problem and it is widespread, I would like to understand what to do, if sex therapy is needed, if there are any pharmacological remedies, I also read about the tantra that can solve this problem. I would like to receive information to understand what to do. Thanks Daniela.
Hi Daniela, thanks for writing and speaking freely about your problem. Unfortunately, anorgasmia is a very common sexual dysfunction in women, but also in men, certainly in small numbers. Anorgasmia, as the word itself says, is the inability to reach orgasm, so not to feel pleasure during a relationship, but simply not to reach the highest point of the sexual response which is orgasm. We in the Sex Academy always say that everyone is “Responsible for their own orgasm” and therefore the responsibility of their partner is very limited. From how you tell us it seems that you have trouble reaching orgasm forever, not only with your husband, but also alone with masturbation; if so, in this case we speak of Primary Anorgasmia, that is, always present, and not later than a particular event. The problems can be multiple and so also the solutions, this dysfunction is rarely organic in nature, but almost always psychological, due to a strict sexual education received, a trauma suffered, or simply the inability to let go, for fear of loss of control during sexual intercourse. There are many treatment therapies, Tantra as mentioned by you, it is one of the possible, perhaps the first that I would advise you to try, to become aware of your body, learn to relax with deep breathing and let yourself be abandoned in a tantric session can be an immediate solution to your problem. For any other questions you can contact us without any problem.
Giulia -Sex Academy